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Winners and Losers: What Do They Have in Common?

Think about the people you know. Think about those who are successful and then think about those who are not.

Now compare the two. I'm sure that as you examine them in your mind, you will initially see all the ways in which they are different.

In one case, the successful person can't do anything wrong – they achieve everything they set out to accomplish. In contrast, the unsuccessful person probably can't get out of their own way – they sabotage their growth or blame others for their outcomes.

Now think about this question: What makes them the same? What common traits to they possess?

Your initial reaction to that question may be that these people have nothing in common – one has succeeded in every way while the other has failed repeatedly.

Yet, they do have a few things in common. For one, they each, at least initially had a vision or a goal. Without a goal, there is no benchmark for success or failure. Without goals, life is flat.

So, if they both had an idea of what they wanted to achieve, why did one make it and not the other?

Here is the other thing they have in common: Mindset.

Those who believed they could succeed, did so; those who thought they would fail, succeeded at failing.

Confucius said, “The man who says he can, and the man who says he can not are both correct.”

Henry Ford, thousands of years later, said, “The man who thinks he can and the man who thinks he can't are both right. Which one are you?”

Another way to say this is: We are who we think we are. How we think about ourselves is what we make of our lives. We create the life we think we deserve.

I ask you directly, “Which one are you? What do you think about yourself? What life are you creating?”

Listen carefully to yourself.

When you undertake a challenge, do you tell yourself you can or cannot do it?

Do you sabotage your goals?

Do you get in your own way?

Do you make your life more difficult than it has to be? Are you happy or are you frustrated?

If you answered “frustrated,” there is still hope. You can learn to create a mindset for success and begin achieving your goals.

Hypnotherapy can help recreate your mindset into one of positive outlook and outcomes.

Through the rest of this series of articles on Mindset, we will examine just how and why our beliefs manifest as the lives we lead. If you have lived your life with a victim mentality, you can learn how to become a victor.

I'd love to hear about your challenges and experiences with your mindset. Contact me here.