How to Get Up When Life Knocks You Out
Coaching for Life’s Challenges
Life’s going great and then… BAM!
You get hit, blindsided, with a knockout punch that sends you reeling. Maybe it’s a car accident, maybe your significant other says “See ya later,” or maybe your boss suggests that you should look for work elsewhere.
These moments don’t have to be catastrophic to knock us down. Sometimes the cumulative effect of little jabs can lead to a light tap being enough to lay us out flat.
Maybe it’s as simple as an unexpected bill on your already stretched-thin budget.
These moments test us. Understandably so. As the proverbial rug has been pulled from underneath us, we dance frantically trying to get our feet steady once again.
We struggle to find balance. We fumble to recover.
We’ve all been there.
In the moment of falling down, it’s easy to ask ourselves, “Why should I even bother to get back up?”
(That’s called “learned helplessness,” by the way. And you’re better than that.)
Well, yes, you could just lie there on the mat and throw in your towel. But that’s not you’re goal in life, is it?
How can you recover your balance and perspective so you can get up and punch back?
Step 1: Realize that this is just a temporary setback
While it may feel monumental, or maybe just annoying and repetitious, know that any event, is temporary. (Well, any event short of dying…and you know, if you are reading this, you most likely aren’t dead.)
You choose how long you want to be mired in the situation. You are not a victim of outside circumstances, even though it may feel that way.
Stand up. Stand up for yourself. Stand up for your dreams.
Step 2: Become aware of the good things that are going on around you (YES, they are there – open your eyes)
My favorite book to refer to clients is the Five Minute Journal.
Why? Because it awakens them to become aware that good things are always happening and present in their lives.
These good things exist in yours too. You’re just blind to them at the moment.
Order a copy of the journal today (no, I do not receive any commission from this) and start shifting your mindset from obstacle to opportunity.
When become aware of the good things around us, we create more of them. You know that old quote, “You get more of what you focus on” – yeah, it’s true.
It’s time to stop focusing on crap and feeling like a victim. You got punched, OK, fine. Nobody said life was going to be easy.
Are you going to cave, or are you going to fight for yourself?
Step 3: Take a deep breath and center yourself
Now that you are on your feet, take a moment to clear your head. Take a deep breath and gather in your surroundings.
What’s available to you? Who’s in your corner? What did you learn from taking that last shot?
What can you do differently to avoid the next one, and more importantly, what can you do to land a few hits of your own?
Shake off the fog, get clear and get ready to attack.
Step 4: Attack with intentionally-focused fury
It’s time to get clear on what you want. Do you want to win the fight, or just land as many punches as possible as payback?
If you are playing to win, you better get clear on your goal.
Here’s a hint that few people consider when they’re tired and feeling beaten: Your opponent is tired too.
Life is testing your resolve. When you stand up and start punching back, you let it know that you’re serious about your goals and will fight to achieve them.
Be careful here though. Notice that I mentioned “intentionally-focused fury.”
Random, unfocused blows are ineffective. They do nothing but tire you out further.
Focused action is efficient. Target your efforts like a surgeon, go for the soft-spots, the proverbial low-hanging fruit, and gain some momentum of achievement.
That’ll give you some energy and confidence to keep going.
Step 5: Enjoy success.
How do I know you’ll succeed?
But I do know one thing: If you got up off the mat and followed steps 1-4, you are a success.
You didn’t give up. And that deserves recognition.
Now, keep your guard up and get ready to answer the next bell.
Contact me and let’s prepare you for the next round.