Be Aware of What You Wish For

Move forward with positive intention, without forecasting regrets


How many times have you been told, “Be careful what you wish for, you may receive it”?

What was happening at the time?

Had you just achieved a goal, only to find unexpected consequences to your success? As you discussed these challenges with friends and family, did they share this particular bon mot with you?

Or maybe, you were in the early stages of chasing your dreams. As you outlined your lofty goals, someone decided to ground you a bit by tossing out a predictable and trite witticism.

What did you take away from this conversation, when it occurred? What is the underlying message of “Beware what you wish for…?”

It’s this: Achievement just brings trouble. Don’t bother.

Ask yourself, “Have I taken this message to heart?”

Have you secretly, and probably unintentionally, allowed yourself to be programmed to fear success?

Have you created a self-fulfilling prophecy for yourself that results in failure when you take action to achieve?

When you think about attaining your goals, do you think of all the challenges that will come not only on the path to achievement, but also as the new norm to your success?

Another, more sinister way to say this message is, “BEWARE what you wish for.” Now maybe you can better sense the monsters lurking in your dreams.

Let’s make a slight alteration to that sentence: Be Aware of What You Wish For.

How does that sentence resonate with you?

What’s the difference in the message?

To beware is to fear. It is to sabotage, or not even start on your path. It is to be a victim.

To be aware, is to know the challenges ahead. It is to create a roadmap of expectations. It is to plan. It is to be responsible.

Awareness brings self-empowerment.

Seemingly innocent messages such as “Be careful what you wish for, you may get it” impact our subconscious beliefs through repetitious exposure. After hearing this sentiment repeated over years and years and years, we can unconsciously take it to be a truth.

Add a few attempts at failing to meet a goal and that unconscious belief is reinforced.

You do not have to live with this programming. You can choose to erase this, and other, negative messages that are controlling your ability to achieve happiness.

Hypnotherapy can help to uncover these limiting beliefs, heal them and reprogram them into positive, empowering beliefs.

Contact me to change your programming. We’ll work together to create your Whole. New. YOU.

Daniel Olexa, CCHt


White-washing Via Hypnosis: A Review of the Get Out Trailer

White-washing Via Hypnosis: A Review of Jordan Peele's Get Out Trailer

Yesterday, this trailer for Jordan Peele's upcoming film “Get Out” appeared on my Facebook news feed.

If you've read my earlier posts on the misconceptions of hypnosis, you probably heard my head explode at the images and suggestions of hypnosis as it will seem to be used as a plot device for mind control and behavior modification in the movie.

DISCLAIMER: I admit that I am basing my reaction on the trailer. I am drawing my own conclusions from the imagery presented and character interactions suggested by the editing of these snippets. Trailers are designed to entice viewers to see the film – they are not the whole film.

So, what did I surmise from the trailer?

It seems like Catherine Keener's character has experience as a hypnotist. We can make this conclusion because he husband, in a nice little piece of convenient exposition, tells the main character that his wife can help him to stop smoking via hypnosis.

I hesitate to call her character a hypnotherapist, because we do not know the basis of her background. Read about the distinction here.

As the playwright Anton Chekov noted, “Remove everything that has no relevance to the story. If you say in the first chapter that there is a rifle hanging on the wall, in the second or third chapter it absolutely must go off. If it's not going to be fired, it shouldn't be hanging there.”

With that in mind, the inclusion of hypnosis in the trailer suggests that it is an important plot device in the film. In this film, at least based on the information in the trailer, hypnosis is our gun on the wall. But to what end?

As we move through the trailer, we see images of the main character presumably being placed, without his consent, into a state of hypnosis by Keener, who is stirring a cup of tea, presumably to create a rhythmic pattern and touchstone for the main character's state. She is heard telling him to “Sink into the floor,” and he then finds himself waking up bound to a recliner.

The other African Americans in the universe of Keener's home appear to be acting oddly. Blank stares, maniacal laughs, bloody noses when they appear to wake from a trance... the list of tropes goes on. One presumed victim of Keener's programming seems to realize what is happening to him after the strobe of a cellphone camera frees him from his Stepford-like state.

The implication to these events, the conclusion that I draw about the film is that Keener, and possibly her husband and the town, are complicit in conducting behavioral modification on these characters to make them “safe,” essentially white-washing the scary black man into behaving like a caricature from the 40s (complete with straw hat).

Peele has said that this film “... is one of the very, very few horror movies that does jump off of racial fears. That to me is a world that hasn’t been explored. Specifically, the fears of being a black man today.”

I applaud him for making that leap in storytelling. Racial fears are fantastically fertile ground for a new age of horror/suspense films, particularly given the current perceptions of division in the US.

I DO NOT commend him for using hypnosis as a tool to conduct what appears to be brainwashing. Even the CIA has disproved that theory.

Misguided and ill-informed presentations of hypnosis make my job more difficult. I resent them.

They reinforce fears and misconceptions in a public whom is uneducated about the benefits of hypnosis. These fears prevent people from seeking out a tool that could help them to live a happier, healthier life.

These incorrect beliefs lead people to be afraid of me when I tell them I am a hypnotherapist. They jump to a conclusion that I have the power to control them.

Not only do I not have that power, I do not care to control anyone.

The purpose of my practice is to help my clients to live their lives more fully: The lives they choose to live, not some fantasy of white-washed behavior.

By all means, if this film intrigues you, see it. Please just realize that it is a work of fiction and as such, contains elements that are not entirely truthful.