Five Reasons You Do Not Need Hypnotherapy

Five Reasons You Do Not Need Hypnotherapy

Let's face it, to some people, the thought of hypnosis and hypnotherapy is spooky and unnerving.

They have fears about what could happen to them - being controlled, divulging personal secrets, not being hypnotizable and of course, acting like a chicken.

I've addressed all of those issues here and here and here and here.

Whew!

Yet, some people just LOVE their problems sooooo  much that they would never consider trying a different path in life.

If the following five statements resonate with you, then you do not need hypnotherapy.

1.  You like your problem.

Let's face it, you say you don't like to feel stuck in your life, feeling like you can't get ahead, feeling unloved or unlucky in relationships. Maybe you have a pattern that tells you that you can't succeed, someone always takes your ideas or you just can't get ahead.

What good comes to you from talking with your friends and family about these issues?

Maybe your family agrees with the pattern of lack, because that's what they've experienced.

Maybe your friends tell you that it will all get better and they take you out for drinks to drown your sorrows.

What have you gained? You've gained a few moments of recognition, of compassion. A few moments that reinforce your secondary gain.

Secondary gain?

A secondary gain is a positive that comes out of having a negative. You continually get hurt in relationships, but your friends are there to console you. You get support from having a destructive cycle.

You can't seem to get ahead financially, so a family member bails you out on a bill or two. You're free and clear for now... Until you repeat the pattern because it is what you are familiar with.

And because of the temporary relief that you feel, you stop looking for long-term, permanent answers.

If this is you, stop reading now. There's nothing more here for you. Go ride your behavior cycle.

2. You're secretly afraid of being successful

Success sounds great. You're rich, you're comfortable, you're admired.

But what about the responsibility that comes with that realization of your goal?

Maybe you'd own a business, but have no idea how to run one; maybe you'd get a promotion at work, but the new job requires learning new skills; or maybe you've found the perfect partner for a relationship and you feel undeserving of their attention.

What do you do? You self-sabotage.

You find a way to not go into business; you talk you way out of the promotion, or you make a number of critical mistakes that take you out of the running for it; you act like you are not interested in being in a committed relationship and chase the other person away with your attitude.

What have you gained?

You have reinforced your idea of yourself. You've stayed in your comfort zone.

As uncomfortable as it may be, you know its walls well. It's home.

You don't need hypnotherapy to enjoy the view from home. Mom's there, I'm sure. Enjoy the apple pie. Three squares and a bed.... kinda like prison.

3. You have no negative inner dialogue

Why would you need the help of a hypnotherapist if you've never experienced negative self-talk?

You have no fear. You never question yourself or your abilities. You KNOW you are going to succeed.

Failure and self-questioning are for chumps.

4. You can stop smoking or lose weight whenever you want to

You've said you can stop whenever you want. You can choose to eat better and exercise – you know how to accomplish that goal of fitting into a certain dress for your class reunion or wedding.

But you haven't done it yet.

Yeah. It'll happen tomorrow.

Keep telling yourself that.

5. You're perfectly happy with every aspect of your life

Your life is absolute bliss. Everything falls into place perfectly, every day, every time.

You know that everything will always be this way and you will never, ever be blind to the silver lining in those storm clouds.

If you can answer yes to all five of these criteria, congratulations, you have achieved a life that others only dream of. You don't need a hypnotherapist.

If on the other hand, you had a moment of agreement and realization with any of these points, you can reach me at my website: www.danielolexa.com/contact.

It's your life. You choose.

Daniel Olexa, CCHt

www.danielolexa.com

daniel@danielolexa.com

Past Life Regression, Part 3: Healing Emotional Trauma with Past Life Regression

Past Life Regression, Part 3: Healing Emotional Trauma and the Science of PLR

Learning From the Past; Exploring the Future

In my hypnotherapy practice, I've been fortunate to work with numerous clients who were interested in exploring the possibility of previous lives. In each case, these people had tried for years to break deeply seated emotional patterns and limiting beliefs about themselves. While they had achieved some level of success, they still felt as though something was holding them back from fully experiencing and enjoying their accomplishments.

One client in particular was very memorable. As we discussed PLR as an option, he seemed somewhat spooked by the thought. Interestingly, when I said the word “reincarnation” he perked up. That was the touchstone that resonated for him.

This person is an author who was having difficulty promoting his books and believing in himself as an achiever.

As our session evolved, this client visited a past life that took place in the 1920s where he experienced a domineering mother, passive father and a family who did not appreciate his mental/emotional depth. In this life, his lessons were to keep quiet to maintain the peace and put his desires second to those of others. In short, he didn't matter.

One of the fascinating things to watch when a client is in a PLR is their body movement. In the hypnotic state, clients' body language can be significant abreactions. In this case, my client curled up in my recliner, as though he was recoiling from the world that was hurting him in this previous life.

We visited the end of this past life; seeing the death scene was freeing to him as he floated up toward space.

We talked about the lessons that he learned in this life: being alone, being second, being unappreciated. I asked him if he needed to carry the baggage of these lessons forward into his current life.

He replied, “No.”

As I guided him through releasing these faulty beliefs, he sat taller in the chair as each emotional weight was removed.

When he woke from the regression a few minutes later, his face was noticeably less strained, he was smiling and energetic. The experience had been profound for him and she took the lessons of the session with him.

Does this one illustration create a scientific case for PLR? No, it honestly does not.

However, it does have some very interesting commonalities with other past life experiences documented by therapists who have studied the phenomenon.

Dr. Michael Newton, author of Journey of Souls, has documented an outline of ten experiences that are common to those who are the subject of a past life regression. These stages are described perfectly in this article: Did Science Just Prove Reincarnation? A Look At The Soul’s Journey After “Death”

Contrary to the title, the process of PLR has not been proven scientifically.

Sadly, much research into the phenomenon has been sloppy. The work of Ian Stevenson is described here.

In any scientific process, it is important that the researcher be willing to allow his/her hypothesis to be disproven by the evidence resulting from data collection and experiments. It seems that Stevenson accepted surface observations as deeper proof in his desire to prove the hypothesis to which he dedicated his life.

At the University of Virginia, psychiatrist Jim Tucker is taking a more scientific approach. Tucker believes that there is something deeper to the human experience of reincarnation and is working with in the framework of science and quantum physics to discover explanations.

It is improbable that current scientific tools will reveal significant leaps into the realm of past life regression. The experience is more an expression of faith than it is one of science.

As the field of quantum physics progresses, we may find stronger links to the powers of mind over matter and the possibility of the ongoing existence of our souls/consciousness.

Even without hard scientific proof to back it up, the protocol of PLR is a proven tool in healing clients' issues in this current life.

I have seen the improvements that the past life experience brings to my clients. It is a powerful tool in my practice.

Past Life Regression, Pt 2: Hypnotic Storytelling to Promote a Healing Identity

Past Life Regression, Pt 2: Hypnotic Storytelling to Promote a Healing Identity

Is It Fiction If It Has an Effect?

You are not you. At least not in the sense of your physical body and your ideas about the life that you perceive.

You are a story.

You are the story that you tell yourself about identity.

These stories can be both positive/empowering and negative/destructive. If you tell yourself that you are successful in business, even long before you actually have a business, you are more likely to be a successful entrepreneur.

If the story you tell yourself is that you are a loser in love and unworthy of companionship, you will most likely go through life alone, or in horrible, demeaning, unfulfilling relationships.

We live our stories every day. We make choices in our lives that validate our beliefs about ourselves and reinforce these tales. Our fictions become fact through repetitive reinforcement.

What happens when we become bored with our story? Or, maybe more accurately, what happens when our story no longer serves our long-term goals? What do we do when we feel that there is something better, more fulfilling, for us in this life beyond the limits of our current experience?

Can we change? Can we improve our story?

My experience with my clients is that we can. By reframing limiting beliefs, my clients are empowered with a sense of opportunity to achieve, rather than diminished by perceived challenges.

This is not an overnight process. Hypnosis is not a panacea, but it is a useful tool in reframing the stories and beliefs that are stored in the subconscious mind.

Where does Past Life Regression have a place in this process?

As I mentioned in my previous article, it is not the purpose of this series to claim PLR as a fact, that decision is personal and is the choice of my clients. My intention here is to suggest reasons as to why stories of past lives can be instrumental to healing in this present life.

In this article on storytelling, Gregory Ciotti discusses how and why stories are important to us. Politicians and lawyers use them to help make a case for their policies and positions, salesmen use them to engage our emotions beyond the cost of a transaction.

Stories are used to get us to buy-in, they entice us by creating relevance and commonality.

The embellishments of a story draw us in and expand our perception beyond mere facts. They help us imagine ourselves in a different circumstance.

Through this engagement, we perceive a different reality than one we may have considered prior to this exposure. If the emotional content of the story is strong enough, we may even be moved to change our position on a topic.

Transportation is an interesting phenomena that occurs in the brain when we become immersed in a story. As noted in this article from Berkeley, “Once a story has sustained our attention long enough, we may begin to emotionally resonate with story’s characters. Narratologists call this “transportation,” and you experience this when your palms sweat as James Bond trades blows with a villain on top of a speeding train.”

So, if the process of transportation can cause us to have a physical response to a fictional character, could it not also cause us to create a change in our lives based on what we may perceive as another version of ourselves?

Let's consider a fictional client. This person faces a challenge in their life and they have chosen hypnotherapy to help. Maybe they tried other means to change, maybe not. What matters is that they are here in my office now.

For sake of argument (and an easy, nearly universal) metaphor, let's say that they are unlucky in love. They cannot find the right person in their life and are repeating the same pattern over and over and over again. They are conscious enough of their pattern that the recognize it, but they feel they do not have the tools to change it. Initially, they place the blame for the ending of relationships on others, but eventually recognize that the only common denominator in all of these pairings is them.

After a series of protocols including suggestion therapy, parts therapy and possibly childhood regression, they've made some strides, but are still feeling that the problem is not solved.

The root for this may be that all of these protocols are based in the current life and the perceptions of it. The tools for reference are not in their toolbox. Much like if we were fixing a plumbing leak and found that we did not have a pipe wrench in our arsenal.

We may be able to make a suitable repair, but not a complete one until we had the proper tool.

We'd need to go to another toolbox.

In the case of our fictional client, this new toolbox is past life regression.

Why?

The initial answer is, if they client does not believe that they have the tools in this life to create the change that they desire, then we can discuss how this problem may have existed in another life. It is possible that they have already learned this lesson, or that they could gain new insights to help manifest change here and now.

There are factors that are important for the client to accept before we begin the session.

1. They must be open to the idea of past lives. If they are not open to reincarnation, we may be able to come to an agreement that the experience is just a metaphor and to accept it as a story to help them.
2. They must be willing to accept responsibility for what happened in this past life story. For example, if they are unlucky in love in this life, they may construct a story in which they were abusive to their partner(s) in a previous life. As uncomfortable as it may be, they have to accept that this event took place and learn from it.

We begin our session and they experience the story generated by their subconscious. As I mentioned in the previous article, my role is one of facilitator. I do not help them create imagery or situations. My only question is, “What happens next?” The client is responsible for the construction of the story – it is THEIR story.

If, as we noted above, transportation creates a physical reaction in us to fictional characters, how much stronger may that process be when the character is us? How much more strongly relevant may the story be for us?

During a PLR session, the client may discover that in the tale of their previous life that they solved this problem already, or they may perceive the same situation occurring again. They are given tools to frame what they learned in that prior situation to apply to the current one. Ideally, they have found their new tools in this toolbox and can now make effective repairs to their life.

What are your thoughts on PLR? I'd love to open this discussion wider.